How to Find the Right Life Coach When You’re Craving Change

What to Look For, What to Avoid, and What Actually Matters

You feel it — the restlessness, the ache, the quiet knowing.

Your life works, but something inside doesn’t feel right.
You’ve achieved, built, endured… but now you're craving something more.
Something deeper. Realer. More you.

You’re not broken. You’re ready.

And maybe for the first time, you're open to help.

But not just any help — you want someone who can hold the real you.
Someone who’s been where you are.
Someone who can guide you forward without asking you to become anyone other than yourself.

That’s where the right life coach comes in. And finding them? That’s sacred work.

First: Why Life Coaching (And Not Just More Therapy)?

I want to say this up front: I love therapy. I’ve done it. I needed it.

But when I reached a certain point in my healing, therapy began to feel like rehashing the same story — over and over. I wanted to move forward, not just understand my past.

Coaching, when done right, isn’t about fixing you.

It’s about helping you remember who you already are — before the fear, before the roles, before the survival.

A good coach doesn’t label you.
They see you.
And they ask the kind of questions that help you see you, too.

My First Experience With Coaching

I didn’t go looking for a coach. I went to dinner.

“What are you doing next?” a friend asked.

I gave a vague answer because the truth — “I don’t know, I’m just trying to survive” — felt too raw.

He saw through me anyway.

“I might have something for you. But more than that… I think you’d be a great coach.”

At the time, I laughed it off. I was full of doubt, imposter syndrome, survival stories. But he offered to coach me — and I said yes.

That “yes” changed my life.

He didn’t give me steps. He gave me space.
He didn’t offer advice. He offered presence.
He didn’t try to fix me. He asked questions that helped me reclaim me.

So How Do You Find the Right Coach?

1. Look for resonance, not credentials

Degrees are fine. Certifications are helpful. But transformation happens through connection.

Ask yourself:

• Do I feel seen by this person?
  

• Do I feel safe bringing my truth into this space?
  

• Do they embody the kind of freedom I crave?
  

If the answer is yes — that’s more powerful than any acronym.

2. Pay attention to how they listen

The right coach doesn’t rush to respond.
They ask better questions than they give answers.

You don’t want someone with a script.
You want someone who listens for what’s not being said — and helps you hear it, too.

My coach once asked me: “What would it look like to stop asking for permission?”
That single question unraveled decades of self-abandonment.

3. Choose someone who’s walked through fire

You want a coach who’s done their own shadow work.
Someone who doesn’t flinch when you bring your shame, grief, rage, or desire.

Find someone who’s not afraid of your truth — because they’ve faced their own.

4. Ask about their process, not just their package

It’s okay to ask: What’s your approach?
Is it intuitive? Somatic? Spiritual? Structured?

A soulful coach won’t try to sell you a one-size-fits-all solution. They’ll explain how they hold space for you.

5. Trust your body’s wisdom

If your body softens in their presence — that’s a sign.

If something inside you exhales when you hear their voice, read their writing, or listen to their story — that’s a “yes.”

If you feel pressure, posturing, or performance — it’s probably not your coach.

Final Truth: The Right Coach Doesn’t Have the Answers

They won’t give you a checklist.
They won’t hand you your purpose.

They’ll help you remember what your soul already knows.

That’s what happened to me — and it’s why I chose this path as my own.

Because we all need a sacred mirror.
Someone who reminds us we’re not broken — just buried under layers of noise, fear, and forgetting.

Ready to Explore If We’re a Fit?

If you’re craving change and this resonates — let’s talk.

Book a discovery call — and we’ll explore your story, your longing, and what it might look like to come home to yourself.

No pressure. Just presence. Just truth.